For most of my life, I’ve measured my worth by my appearance. The stranger who sexually abused me sealed that deal.
At one point during the encounter, he forced me to look at magazines with naked women, pointing out what made them beautiful… and it effectively etched into my mind what the “ideal” woman looked like.
While I was only 4-years-old — an innocent child — I decided that without the right curves here, the tautness there, and perkiness in other places… I would be worthless.
Problem is, I’ve never had the right combination of those things.
Maybe you haven’t either.
Think about it… where did the body image tangle start for you?
~ Was it because a parent made it the focus of their acceptance of you?
~ Did marketers and advertisers do their job to convince you that appearance mattered most?
~ Did you learn to use your beauty to get what you wanted?
~ Can the digits of the scale determine the tone of your day?
~ Is someone in your life quick to point out the places you don’t measure up — and you keep trying to?
~ Have you set you unrealistic standards for yourself?
Here’s truth: The number on the scale or the size of your clothes can’t measure the size of your heart, the complexity of your character, or the depth’s of God’s love for you.
And when you let anything but your Creator determine how much you matter, you’ll stay tangled forever.
It’s truths like this I unpack in my book, Untangled.
… It’s not a self-help book.
… It’s not a “5-simple-steps-and-you’re-healed” game plan.
… It’s not a book where we sit in victim-mode and complain about life.
Untangled is my journey with God to loosen knots of insecurity — like body image — that have kept me from living with self-confidence and believing I had worth as a woman.
And for you… It’ll be a reminder that you’re not alone. Because I’m learning the struggle with insecurity is universal, and it knits us together as women.
In its pages, your eyes will be opened to the tangles we face as women, and I’m praying that God will reveal the ones knotting YOU up right now.
But this book won’t fix you.
Instead, it will point you to the One who can.
And today, Untangled is available everywhere books are sold!
Leave a comment below with your favorite scripture for when those tangles start to tighten.
Winner will be announced on my Carey Scott Talks Facebook page on Friday, June 5th!