Want some sound advice to make your marriage flourish?
Here it is: “Sometimes you need to shut your mouth, and pray about it instead.“
You see, there are times the best thing we can do is keep our mouths closed.
Sheesh… so much easier said than done, eh?
She shared this advice after I dished about things my husband was doing that I wanted… changed. I had been looking for opportunities to share those things with Wayne. I’d become so vocal about wanting him to be different which put a strain on our relationship.
But she reminded me that wasn’t the kind of wife God wanted me to be.
He didn’t want me to be a nagging wife.
He wanted me to be a praying wife.
Sometimes, the best thing we can do for our marriage is… zip it up and lift it up.
So why don’t we?
I’d like to suggest that maybe it’s because we have a hard time trusting in the power of prayer.
We think petty frustrations with our husbands are areas we’re capable of handling on our own.
We think God has bigger fish to fry, and our frayed nerves are too far down His to-do list.
Am I right?
And rather than ask God for perspective… rather than ask God to change hearts… we take matters into our own hands with time-tested tactics like:
Sisters, these tactics didn’t work so well for me. They backfired. Caused arguments. Hurt feelings. Created tension. Divided camps.
Something needed to change.
Does it for you, too?
What if we decided to pray about it instead?
What if when your husband won’t step up and be the spiritual leader in your house… you pray for God to move his heart rather than remind him how he’s not measuring up?
What if when his work/life balance gets out of whack… you pray for better priorities rather than make him feel like a bad husband or father?
What if when he isn’t being helpful with chores… you pray for God to show him your need for help rather than constantly nagging him to pitch in?
Our words carry great power.
But our prayers carry even more.
Proverbs 13:3 tells us “Whoever controls his mouth protects his own life. Whoever has a big mouth comes to ruin.”
So when we want to see some legitimate changes, this verse tells us to pray about it rather than risk hurtful, harmful, hateful words.
REALITY CHECK: What do you need to be praying about more and nagging about less?
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