So often, we look at her and want what she has.
Her husband is more attentive or makes more money.
Her kids are better behaved or higher achievers.
Her home is bigger… cleaner… better decorated… or in a nicer neighborhood.
Her body is firmer… thinner… tanner… or void of dimples and bumps.
Her faith is stronger… prayers are prettier… and she knows the Bible inside and out.
Her work is better… she volunteers more hours… she’s an amazing cook… and she is always gracious and joyful.
What have I missed?
Let’s be honest here. We’ve all thought this way before. It’s part of the human condition. It’s “normal”. Common. Rampant.
And it’s killing us.
Because it’s a tangle that won’t easily let go.
And once we’re knotted, it creates deep discontentment that’s hard to loosen.
… So we manipulate and control our husbands.
… We shame our kids with unrealistic expectations.
… We overextend, overspend and overdo to keep up.
… We obsess over wrong priorities, tossing aside our better judgement.
… We perform for approval and acceptance, hoping to be noticed.
In our pursuit to be better than her (or at least keep up), we make it all about ourselves — often at the expense of others.
Feelings get hurt. Relationships are strained. Hearts become tangled.
But friend… you aren’t supposed to be her.
You’re supposed to be you.
And truth is, you aren’t equipped to handle her blessings or her struggles. You’re equipped to handle your own.
She isn’t better. She’s just different. And her life isn’t perfect, even though it looks that way. It’s filled with joy and challenges — just like yours.
So just be you.
Because you are amazing.
And your family and friends need you.