Warning: I’m in a bad mood, so proceed carefully. 😉
I need to know that other moms struggle with getting their children to do homework, too. Please leave a comment and tell me that I am NOT the only one, because it might cause me to dive into a pint of ice cream which only offers short-term gratification and long-term cellulite.
It’s a big issue in our home. BIG. Now, it’s not the amount of homework from 3rd grade … it’s more the fact that he has homework at all. I’m not completely sure why it throws him into a tailspin. I mean…
- Sam is a smart kid.
- He has great grades.
- He enjoys school (that may be stretching it).
- Sam loves reading and math.
- He loves his teacher.
But more often than not, it is a mammoth struggle that results in yelling, spankings, groundings, and fights. Oh how I hate it for me and for him. And believe me when I tell you I’ve tried it all:
- Homework right after school
- Free time than homework
- Offers for long back scratches (he loves ’em)
- Extra time on the computer and/or video game
Bleh. It’s just a struggle right now. Wayne and I have tried to explain how important it is. How it’s vital to learning a good work ethic. We’ve shared how it’s just part of being in school and we have to follow these rules. Yadda, yadda, yadda…
But in the midst, you know what God revealed to me? That the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.
God reminded me that I responded the same way when He told me of things that I needed learn. Even though I knew what God wanted to change was necessary and good. Even though I knew they would benefit me in the long run. I bucked the system.
And it was a battle.
I was a controlling, rebellious, self-seeking, out for a good time, irresponsible, angry, wounded, dysfunctional woman who needed Jesus more than my next breath. And while I knew the right thing to do, I fought it.
I wonder what God is calling you to do that has you fighting back?
- Forgiving your husband and giving the marriage another chance?
- Accepting your children for who they are rather than trying to change them into what you want them to be?
- Giving up your agenda for His?
- Taking a hard look at a habit that’s turning into an addiction?
- Repenting of a sin that has complete control of your life?
Friends, I know it’s hard to do things His way sometimes!!! From our puny little eyes, it makes no sense!!! But God will bless our obedience. Let me back that up with scripture.
Hebrews 10:36-37 tells us “You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.”
Galatians 6:9 says “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
I have faith that our current homework situation will turn around soon. While Sam is a fighter, he’s also a smart kid and will eventually give up the stubbornness and embrace what’s best for him.