I’ll never be enough.
- I will never be the right size
- I will never wear the right clothes
- My jewelry won’t be the right carat
- I’ll never have the right fitness level
- I will never have enough money
- My family will never have the right image
- I’ll never cook or bake as well as others
- I won’t drive the right car
- My hair style won’t be the right one (what am I saying… my hair rocks!)
- I’ll never have the best ministry
- I will never do enough to help the poor
That is, when I allow the world to evaluate me.
You know what? I’m amazed at how easy it is to do just that. We willingly permit the world to assess us by asking it if we are “enough” all the time. And if/when we do attain their approval, it’s fleeting because the world changes its mind without notice.
It’s a lose-lose situation.
John tells us that we shouldn’t want what the world has to offer because it’s not from God. It’s a dead-end street. And since we are refugees here on earth… since this is not our home… we need to rise above it. Literally.
“For everything that is in the world – the desire for fleshly gratification, the desire for possessions, and worldly arrogance – is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world and its desires are fading away, but the person who does God’s will remains forever.” (1 John 2:16-17)
When we desire the affections and approval of the world, we’ll never be enough. We’ll always fall short. And when we are rejected, we spiral down into condemnation and self-loathing.
We begin to believe the lie that we will never measure up.
But God tells us the exact opposite. He tells us we are accepted, significant and secure no matter…
- What we do
- What we wear
- How we talk
- Where we went to school
- Who we’re friends with
- How much our paycheck is
- The achievements of our kids
He thinks we’re da’ bomb.
There is nothing we can do to make Him love us more. Or less.
We can’t win it. Or lose it.
There is no way to earn it. Or buy it.
We aren’t loved based on our performance. Or our lack thereof.
Having a hard time believing it? I totally get that. It’s a glorious truth that is almost too good to be true… but it is true. And God confirms it in Romans 8:31-39. In a nutshell, the verse tells us that we are free from any condemnation brought against us and nothing has the ability to separate us from the love of God.
Do I hear an AMEN in the house?
Sisters, stop looking to the world for approval. You’ll never get it.
But God tells us we already and always have His.