It seems I’ve taken up a new residence. I’ve moved to a place called Rejectionville. Not only do I now live there, I’m the president of the H.O.A.
Not by choice.
Wait! Is that you living two doors down the street? 😉
Rejection is a big issue, isn’t it? It’s a feeling we can relate to because we all experience it from time to time. Here is where it gets tricky. I know I don’t only feel rejection… unfortunately I, too, have been the rejector. It works both ways.
So, what do you do when you feel like the world (or most of it) is against you. That you just don’t matter… enough. When people purposely hurt you.
You know what I have a tendency to do when I operate in my flesh?
- I scream and cry
- I plot revenge in a very tasty way (and I can be creative)
- I have a pity party and send out no invitations
- I try to get others on my side
Did I actually just share all that? 🙂
But you know what the Bible says about it? “If God is for us who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31) When I’m feeling snarky, my reply to that scripture is… “Well lots are against me! Just look at my life!” But most of the time (or eventually), I rest in knowing that my mighty Father is fully FOR me.
You know what, He’s for YOU, too.
I’ll be raw and honest with you… I’m in a tough season. Because God has clearly called me “out” of something in life, I am facing rejection on a very personal level. People I thought were my friends… people who have helped me in ministry… some who have been so supportive in the past… are acting out of character (I hope) and I am feeling rejected because of it.
But I am slowly and painfully learning that not every battle is mine to fight and not every wrong is ours to right.
Exodus 14:14 tells us that God will fight for us and all we need to do is stand still. If we stay in communication with our Father, we will know when it is time for us to battle and when it is time to stand back and watch Him battle for us.
I’m choosing to stand behind His shield and let Him deal with the flaming arrows being shot my direction. Every stinkin’ time I step out from behind Him… those arrows wound me.
I’m also going to continue to pray for my “enemies.” I don’t want my heart to become bitter because of the battle. Believe me, these are not bad people.
Well, I’ve decided to follow the high road and move up to the town of Trustburg. Heard the weather was better there? Care to move there with me? Yes, it’s a bit of a hike over some tricky terrain… but our footsteps will become lighter when we shake free from the need to make sure everyone understands us.
We could be neighbors… again.
Karen says
Wish we were neighbors again! God shines in a cool wonderful way thru you!!
Laura says
I loove Ex 14:14 “The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” What a great reminder! Not ONLY when you are living in Rejectionville, but also Hurtston, Vulnerability City, and the sprawling metropolis of ThisPitAgain. I have been a resident of them all but at the moment I have I great home here in Trustburg and the house across the street is waiting to be occupied!! I’ll see you there! We’ll have a neighborhood bbq where I will thank you proper with my “becoming famous” Classic Diner Chocolate Pie for being so open about your hurts and sharing your life lessons with me!! Your words have such value and depth and I really appreciate you putting them out there!! Along with your vulnerability!! Keep speaking, Carey Scott!!
careyscotttalks says
Laura… you should guest blog for me! Love your words!!
Heatherly says
Great post. I’m sorry that you are feeling rejection, but I am so blessed by what He is teaching you through it!
conni says
I loved the Ex 14:14. Hold on to that, Carey! Btw, I think I am your neighbor already! And have been many, many times in all these moves from city to city. It’s a long journey and aren’t we fortunate to NEVER TRAVEL ALONE! God is for us…so who can be against us! Amen Carrie…Humans are far from perfect. But don’t you think our friends should be darn close to being it or being there for us!? Hmmm. A dilemna for sure. I guess while on this high road of travel we may have to pass through Mercyville, Graceville, and most effective, Humorville!!! Because we have to laugh when people are sooooooooo stupid! Love u girl! Put on your armor everyday! Putting mine on right now!
Carrie says
Great job. Man have I felt the rejection too! We may not know what the other person is going through in their lives. This is where trust comes in to play and the only One we can trust is Jesus. Love you sista!!