I’m done. I am quitting. I’ve said those words so many times over the past few weeks. And I’ve meant them. I am struggling to find joy, much less keep it. My heart feels heavy. I’m easily annoyed and quickly frustrated. Giving grace is challenging. And I wonder if it’s really worth it. Can I just be honest with you?…
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When we need to know God is in the middle
I hate the middle. It’s that hard place where we get stuck between the start and finish… between conflict and resolution… between questions and answers… between giving up and persevering. It’s the place where our spirit is stirred up, and our mind creates scary and painful scenarios full of what ifs and if onlys. And honestly, it’s those unknowns we…
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When we just want it all to stop
I recently battled vertigo for a week. It was like being on a loopty-loop roller coaster, relentlessly twisting and turning with no end in sight. My sense of balance was shot, and my days were full of nausea, dizziness, and puking. Oh, I hate to throw up. It makes this close enough to 50-year-old woman revert to a 5-year-old child……
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Why introspection can be dangerous
Did I really just say that? Did I actually just do that? You have no idea how many times these kinds of thoughts come to my mind. Often, it’s right after I open my mouth and say something. Other times it’s hours later – days later – when my words come back to mind. And I beat myself up. I…
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When social media stings
And there it was. That picture of them. Without me in it. I wasn’t part of the fun. I wasn’t part of the group. And as I saw picture after picture after picture, the feeling of rejection overwhelmed me. Sometimes social media stings. It has a very special way of reinforcing messages of worthlessness, abandonment and I’m-not-good-enough. The ones that…
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When you think you “deserve” your messy life
Maybe this is one of those really cool verses you’re sure isn’t for you. You decide it’s a promise for her… or them. But not for you. Because when you glance at life and see all its mess … all the mistakes and bad choices… the abuse and tarnishing… you think, “I so deserve the ashes.” And rather than ask…
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