from the archives…
I’ve been wanting to write about suicide for a while now, but could never find the words…
… until now.
Over the past few years, suicide has intersected with my world on a profound level.
- My uncle committed suicide. Now there are a lot of sad and maddening circumstances surrounding his death which I cannot share, but watching him walk the path he did was unimaginable.
- As I’ve shared here before, my 11-year-old son battled feelings of suicide a few years when he was being relentlessly pursued by a bully.
- A dear friend’s niece killed not only herself… but her young son, too.
- I met a sweet woman whose husband took his life without warning.
- We just recognized the three-year anniversary of another friend who took his life unexpectedly, leaving behind a beautiful wife and five amazing kids.
What is going on?
I think I might know.
“Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up.” (1 Peter 5:8)
The Enemy.
You see, he gives us a sense of hopelessness in an effort to destroy us.
He makes us believe that the sadness we are in will indeed last forever. Because we feel so distant from our Father, we buy into the lie that God won’t come through for us this time. We feel alone in our pain, like no one would understand what we are feeling.
In our despair… in our pain… in our loneliness… in our attempt to escape the hopelessness, we look for a way out.
And the Enemy is right there, whispering… suicide… quietly in our ear.
I’ve heard it before.
I remember being so deep in my anguish and sorrow as a young adult that it crossed my mind. There were times I entertained thoughts of suicide.
But God.
“So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ—eternal and glorious plans they are!—will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does.” (1 Peter 5:10-11)
In other words, hold on.
I held on to that tiny strand of hope that things would get better.
I knew deep down that God was there.
I had a mustard seed sized faith He would eventually deliver me.
He did.
Listen friends… the Enemy is trying to take us out.
It’s his ONLY goal.
And we cannot stand by and watch this happen to another. This is a fight to the finish…
“God is strong, and he wants you strong. So take everything the Master has set out for you, well-made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the Devil throws your way. This is no afternoon athletic contest that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil and all his angels.” (Ephesians 6:12)
Friends, we need to stand against the Enemy’s plans to make those we love feel so hopeless… that they take their own life to escape pain.
But unfortunately, it’s not always cut and dry.
- There may be times we don’t even know someone’s hope is gone. We may not be aware things are as serious as they are.
- Other times, we may realize that regardless of our best attempts we’re unable to change someone’s mind.
But regardless, we can battle for them in prayer… be it preventative prayer or desperate prayer.
It would look something like this…
Father, we stand against the Spirit of Suicide in our families. By the blood of Jesus Christ and in His authority, I cancel that Spirit’s assignment on __________ (fill in names)… be it now or in the future. I ask that you fill ______ (fill in names) so full of your joy now and always. Remind them of the hope we have in you, God. Keep them close, Lord. Deepen their desire for you. Give me the supernatural eyes to see and ears to hear if and when hopelessness sets in and the wisdom to know what to do. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Listen… when we pray, we are a force to be reckoned with because the Enemy must bow and submit to the name of Jesus.
- His plans are exposed.
- His hand revealed.
- He loses.
- He must flee.
And hope is restored.
Joy recovered.
The Enemy’s time is limited. He’s turning up the heat.
So. Am. I.
Will you join in the fight?
REALITY CHECK: God hears our prayers… every time.
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wendyblight says
What a powerful post! Thank you for giving us TRUTH to gird our hearts and minds and a prayer to pray to give us hope. Years and years ago, I was in this place and how I wish I had wisdom like this to give me hope and direction. I pray your words encourage and equip women who are walking through themselves or beside another who is struggling with suicide.
Love,,
Wendy.
careyscotttalks says
Wendy… thank you for your encouragement. I do hope these words prove powerful in the lives of others. Appreciate you stopping by…
Jeanelle says
Carey I like the “preventitive” thought in this. To be praying that for my children – that is powerful. Thank you for sharing and reminding us again the reality of the “war” we are in.
careyscotttalks says
Jeanelle… I pray this over my family, too. All the time.
Kim Jongejan says
Super powerful reminder Carey! All the more reason to put on His armor and be ready to battle.
careyscotttalks says
Kim… battle armor is essential! Totally agree!
createdtobebeautiful says
Very good post! I lost my brother to suicide 8 1/2 years ago… he was only 25. I can’t begin to name all of the people we know who have had to endure the loss of a loved one due to this horrific hopelessness…. I have thought many times of writing about it myself. What once used to be talked about through whispers seems to now be everyday conversation. It has hit every age group I know from teenagers to one of my dad’s friends who was in his sixties. It seems to be everywhere…. we must pray, without ceasing! For our children, loved ones, family and friends! It can happen without warning… as you know, it leaves a family in mourning with unanswered questions. God is our only hope! Thank you for writing so boldly about a subject so many are still fearful to mention! 😉
Ann-Marie says
Carey,
Once again, your post has arrived in my inbox as words that God intended just for me to hear in a time of need. My husband and I have encounted this spirit specifically, not once, but twice this month in a friend and in a co-worker. And in the Army, suicide has been a issue strongly addressed over the past few years and continues to be a weighty topic; mandatory suicide prevention training was also this month at work. I thank you for the words to pray over these individuals – in desperate need of God’s hope now – and over our troops as a whole – who need to be covered in those preventative prayers, that they might know and understand His love and hope as they face the future.
As always, Carey, you are an encouragement and a blessing, and I thank God for you.
In Christ’s love,
Ann-Marie
careyscotttalks says
Ann-Marie… SO great to hear from you again! I’m glad my words are aligning with what God is doing in your life. Blessing, sweet friend!