A few days ago, I touched base with an old friend via facebook. I was just checking in because she’s been in a bit of a storm lately.
Her response made me sad.
While I don’t know all the details, she gave me her struggle in a nutshell. I’m so proud of how she is listening to God and trying to stay in His will because I am certain that IS the road less traveled. She’s setting an example for so many whether she realizes it or not.
Here’s the sad part.
At the end of her response, she mentioned how thankful she was that I cared enough to check in. Why? Because friends who she considered more like sisters had – for all intents and purposes – abandoned her.
Why do we do that?
When our sisters are in deep waters and struggling to stay afloat, why is our tendency to walk away?
- Are we afraid it will be too messy?
- Concerned it will take too much of our time?
- Don’t feel like getting involved?
- Afraid of what others might think if we take sides?
- Think what they need the most is time alone?
That’s insane.
What they need more than anything is to know someone cares. They crave the support and encouragement of one who loves them no matter what. In times like these, they want to hear from you.
It makes me sad this friend has had to work through this without the support of her peeps. While some of that may be divine, we have to also remember that God built us for community. When we abandon those in need, we are not following His design.
We need to be intentional in reaching out. How?
- Call them and offer a listening ear.
- Ask them how you can cover them in prayer.
- Share anything God reveals to you with them.
- Invite them over for coffee.
- Give them scripture or a relevant teaching to chew on.
Sisters, can we resolve to be Jesus with skin? Can we stand up for those who are hurting and support them in the storm? Will you obey the prompting of the Holy Spirit and call to check in?
God wants to use you to bring hope and joy and comfort. Through you, He ministers to the hurting. I want to be a part of that!
Do you?
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Great message – I don’t know how many times my sisters in Christ have come to my rescue with words of encouragement and caring. It really did make a difference!
You are a big part to many. Thanks! ML
Or make plans to share a hotdog? Thanks for motivating me to get out of self-pity and remember the selfless love of my friend. I called this morning…got vm…but will keep calling.
As a “messy” friend right now – your words remind me to thank those who have supported me but also remind me the need we all have to feel loved and cared for!! Great word this morning to start my day. Thank you for inspiring us to care and be willing to get involved in other’s lives.
We always think we can handle life’s curve balls by ourselves…but we aren’t as tough as we would like to think we are. None of us are. Thank you, Carey for blesssing me with your writings.