I watched a man holding a “need money for ticket to Arizona” sign walk up and down the long row of cars at a stop light the other day.
Not one person offered to help.
Even though I kept feeling that nudge to bless him with the $20 bill in my wallet, I didn’t.
At the last minute, a window rolled down and a young man handed this beggar some money. What warmed my heart was that in the line of nice, clean, expensive cars… it was the driver in the dirty, beat-up, old, ugly car that stepped up.
He was the one being generous.
And from the looks of things, he was the one with the least to give. This young man had a torn jacket sleeve, a missing hub cap, a cracked windshield, and countless dents in his green car.
But you know what? He demonstrated Matthew 5:14 for the man in need. He showed God’s love.
Rather than help, I sat in judgment of the beggar. My first thought was that he’d end up buying drugs or alcohol with the money rather than purchasing that ticket to Arizona.
I justified my judgment.
You see, it wasn’t my place to monitor his use of those funds. MY job… was to be obedient when God asked me to give him money. What this man chose to do with it was between him and God.
But the young guy with the least stepped up.
He listened to God’s prompting to help.
He got it.
I chose to judge… and because of that, I missed the blessing that comes from being obedient.
Sisters, judgment is a dangerous game that will come back to bite you.
When we judge others, we place ourselves in a position above them. We aren’t.
We sit in that judgment seat, acting like we have it all figured out. We don’t.
We adopt a critical spirit, justifying our words and actions. We can’t.
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.” (Matthew 7:1-2 MSG)
Friends… I am so guilty of this.
- I’ve played the holier-than-thou part before.
- I’ve passed judgment on the failures of others.
- I’ve entertained a critical spirit.
- I’ve overlooked my own short-comings and focused on them in another.
- I’ve been quick to point out someone’s faults.
What if instead of being judge and jury…
we came along side others and treated them with respect and love?
we always looked for the best in people?
we looked for opportunities to help our brothers and sisters in Christ?
we gave one another the benefit of the doubt?
I like it.
You know, that young man made my day. He showed me just how important it is to love others. He reminded me to listen to the Holy Spirit’s prompting to help… not my fleshy tendency to judge.
While the rest of us sat there in our cars avoiding eye contact… he blessed the beggar.
REALITY CHECK: Be careful. You will be judged by the same standard you use to judge others.
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