I wanted to let her have it.
It’s been such a long time since I’ve wanted to lash out the way I did the other night. And to be honest, I had good reason to.
This person hit me where it hurts.
In my honest attempt to reach out in love and sympathy, she responded with anger and bitterness. So much so, that my initial response was to dish it right back at her… and then some.
I can be so nasty in my own flesh. You, too?
Out of surprise and hurt, I crafted an email even I’d hate to get from someone. It was a doozie. It would have stung. Oh, it felt good to say those things.
But I deleted it.
And then I wrote another email which was a little less snarky… a little less biting… a little less judgmental, but had the same “sting” to it.
I erased that one, too.
Finally, I took a deep breath… put on my big girl panties… and wrote words from my heart rather than words from my hurt.
I hit the send button.
And then… Ka-pow! Her response to my grace-filled, laced-with-love, carefully hand-crafted letter slapped me upside the head.
Friends, have you ever tried to do the right thing and it backfired on you?
For the longest time I sat and stared at her response, and the anger crept back in… ten-fold.
Everything in me wanted to use my words as weapons.
I could have, you know. I’ve done it before. Sometimes, I still do.
As much as my flesh wants to verbally lash out at times, I know God wants me to use my words to encourage and teach. He has called me to speak truth and challenge women to be real and authentic. He’s given me the ability to speak words of life into women.
My words carry power… they carry an assignment… and the Enemy knows it.
His plan is quite simple. The Enemy wants my words to inflict damage. Since he cannot shut me up, he wants my mouth to get me into trouble.
I’m learning to be a responsible word user.
And the best way to do that, is to respond in the opposite spirit whenever possible. It looks like this:
- When someone curses me… I should bless them.
- When someone spreads rumors about me… I need to pray for them.
- When I’m provoked and taunted to lash out… I just don’t.
Easy to do? Nope.
Fulfilling? Not at first.
But when we do, it speaks volumes.
You know what, sisters? Your words are powerful, too.
They have the ability to calm and heal and soothe. You can choose to speak life or speak death into others. You can show grace or inflict pain.
Make no mistake. Our words are weapons.
Proverbs 12:18 (GWT) tells us exactly that. It reads… “Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.”
Did you catch that? Our words can heal.
What about those times we intend our words to heal, but they aren’t received in that manner? Or when we craft our conversations to breathe life, but they don’t? Or when we have honest and caring intentions, but they fall short?
We have to trust that God will use our spoken words for His purpose at the right time.
Friends… whenever we get the chance, we should be wise and use our words as weapons for peace and healing… not for destruction and pain.
How are you doing with that?